Love and The End

A year later, and here we are. Actually, here I am. Once I realized you were more interested in being married then in being married to me, the end was inevitable. Especially after I pointed out to you.

Soon, you stopped with the affectionate emoticons and salutations in your emails and voice messages. You hid your status on your Facebook page.

Over this past weekend, your actions made it clear I had been demoted to "friend" status. Of course, you aren't too shy to ask this friend for some money to help with your bills. And as always, this knight-in-shining-armor couldn't stop himself from doing what he could to make your life better.

Anyway, I've grieved enough about this. I think you need to go ahead and release your Facebook status as single. I don't care. You need to get yourself a righteous man whose riches can satisfy your every whim.

As for me, I'm not going to date anymore. If I do win someone's heart someday, it will be from being on a hospital's transplant list.

Love and Gratitude

I paid for my birthday dinner with you. I didn't worry about not get Christmas gifts and birthday gifts. Now you have your tax return. I'm glad you're adding to your expansive wardrobe that already has to have its own room.

But, did you offer to buy me dinner? Did you even think about repaying just a little of the thousands of dollars that I loaned to you. No.

Sure, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I'm just getting tired of being the go-to-udder.

Love and the Next Step

I stumbled along the darkened hallway in the middle night thanks to my dinner experiment – I had substituted several glasses of water in place of tastier portions of my meal. That night, my bladder rustled me out of a deep sleep with threats of turning my mattress into a water-bed.

So I staggered along in a barely-awake stupor. In the middle of the hallway cloaked in midnight, I heard a sickening squish. The unappetizing sound stopped me dead in my tracks. The nauseating noise wakened my brain enough to recoil at the oozing sensation between my toes.

I frantically groped for the nearby light switch and flipped it on. But without my glasses, I could only see blobs of gray and brown on the floor and seeping across the top of my pink feet. My bladder decided it could wait a few more minutes while I dealt with this unexpected horror.

Fully awake and hobbling on my heels, I tottered to the bathroom and into the bathtub. There I began washing away the remains of either a very small, juicy kitten or a very large, pulpy hairball.

If you picked hairball, my love, you won. But what can you expect from a long-haired cat?

In fact, what should I have expected from your long-haired cat? Certainly the clumps of hair all over the house, occasionally some held together by feline stomach contents. Certainly the addition of scratches and stains – a few resembling the profiles of famous dead people – on carpets, furniture, and hardwood floors. Certainly the cat's box sandy grit expelled and laying in wait to pierce the bottoms of unsuspecting bare human feet. Certainly the unreimbursed expenses for animal food and kitty litter.

These past few months have reminded me about the differences between cats and dogs. A dog may be a man's best friend, but a cat is definitely a cat's best friend. You give a dog a command and they'll usually obey it; you give a cat reasonable proposition and hope for the best. Dogs have jumped into my lap because they love me; your cat jumps into my lap only because my lap is warmer.

But this isn't about one type of pet verses another. I sat on the edge of tub that late night with my over-filled bladder prompting for attention while I scrapped your cat's latest offerings from my feet. Then I recalled you saying how much you miss your baby - your cuddly critter. So what better Christmas present than to strain my credit cards and pay your apartment's animal deposit.

Your cat will be with you before the last store closes for the holidays, before the first disappointing present is unwrapped, before you can say, "What else did you get me?"

Merry Christmas, my dear.

Love and Absence

You asked in a sarcastic tone if I've noticed that you're not around in my home. Sadly, yes, I do. Especially when you're not sarcastic.

The other day, I realized I buy toilet paper once every two months instead of once every four days. Remember the sonic boom as you and your daughter got the paper roll spinning fast enough to break the sound barrier?

So, for old times sake, I stuck one end of the paper into the toilet and flushed a few times. The swirling waters of the toilet sucked in as much as the paper as it could - subsonic at best. Still, this brought back a couple of memories. I had even forgotten that panicky feeling when the toilet water approached the rim of a clogged toilet.

Oh, by the way, Root-Rooter sends their regards.

Some things I don't miss. I arrive after work to a different home now. No longer is my long, stressful day followed by a long, stressful night. Now, I walk into a quiet house and cheery greeting from my son. Cooking dinner has become more of a joy. With my meal, I can have a glass of wine or glass of water. It's my choice according to taste, and not to avoid your displeasure.

I do miss your tender kisses and those wonderful moments when you would gaze into my eyes with your overwhelming love. I sadly miss those times. Of course, during our last few months together, I missed those times even when you were here.

You are not "out of sight, out of mind" as you put it. I think about you and about us every day. While we don't talk to each other as often now, we talk more openly than we used to.

And I think your openness has unintentionally given me an insight as to why you want me.

But I need to give more thought - and you need to say a bit more - before I write about your possible hidden agenda.

Love and The Moves

A lot changed during the last few weeks. "A lot" is an understatement for the moves we made these past weeks.

Last month we moved over a thousand dollars out of my bank account and into the waiting hands of your new landlord.

With a little more of my savings, we rented a U-Haul and moved some of your possessions into your new home.

Over the next couple of weekends, we moved all of your stuff - boxes of your papers and memories and tons of goodies - out of storage. One sunny weekend, I rented another U-haul truck. The next weekend, rainy and cold, I rented a truck from Enterprise.

Where did we put your boxes and boxes of stuff? In my house so you can have that yard sales - the one you been planning for the past six years.

One possession you haven't taken is your cat. I ran out of money for the $350 pet deposit. For now, I'll care and feed and scoop her litter box offerings.

What else has moved? A lot of pressure. I come home now after a long, stressful day to a relaxing atmosphere. Fixing dinner is no longer an ordeal of who will eat what. Deciding what I have to get done after dinner is much easier.

I miss you. But I don't miss your sour moods. I don't miss your complaining about what everyone else isn't doing.

You tell me that you worry about becoming "out of sight, out of mind": That I'll forget about you. I don't think you'll let that happen. And I don't intend for you to disappear from my life. We're simply living in separate houses so you can get back to your sweet, happy self. And I can rekindle my love for you. How can I forget about you?

Besides, I still have your cat.

Love and Anger

You asked. I told. You said, "What should I do?" I said, "I'll help you move into your own place a few miles away - away from a house you associate with my evil ex, and away from my son whom you despise."

A thousand dollars later and my name on your lease, you are in a new place. Then you tell me how you miss me. I reply in kind, even though my days have become less stressful and my foregoing expenses cheaper.

As soon as I have more money, I will help you move your precious cat and your furniture into your apartment. Then my place will become less cluttered; and my floors, hair-ball free.

Is this the end of our 9 years together? It all depends on you. Will you be the supporting branch in my life, or a clinging vine choking me? We will see.

Love and Name-calling

No, I'm not angry with you. But if I say you are acting like Superwoman, will you leap off of something high?! Just asking.