"The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost." GK Chesterton
What happens if I lose you? This thought has plagued me for the past couple of days as I endure my long drive to and from work.
This morning, in wee, dark hours before the sun, I got up to get ready for another wearing day of work. For a few moments, I watched you sleeping peacefully in my bed, your 28-hour work week done. I thought of how you complained about your job, the way you make it sound as though you slave away, 80-hours a week in a third world country sweat shop. You would certainly put my 60-plus hour schedule to shame if it were true. But there you were, with a 3 relaxing days ahead and not a demand in sight ... aside from tending to your Farmville crops and your Facebook friends.
And what will I come home this evening? A happy, uncomplaining mate? A fine meal ready? No. That would mean I had slipped into a dream. Or, I was awake and you were prepping me for some expensive demand.
No, I will come home the same as it is has been since you've moved in: not only do I get to spend a long day making the bacon, I get to cook it too. Of course, the cooking takes place only after a rousing round of "guess what she wants to eat".
What will happen if I lose you? I'm not certain. But I'm beginning to think that regret won't be a part of it.
Friday, June 22, 2012
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Love and the Gump
Sometimes when we talk - actually, it's more you talk and I listen - I feel like I'm in a scene from "Forrest Gump". You're Pvt. Benjamin Buford 'Bubba' Blue and I'm Forrest Gump.
You remember those scenes: while Forrest and Bubba assemble their rifles, shine their boots, scrub the floor with toothbrush, Bubba continues on and on about preparing shrimp, eating shrimp, and making a multitude of foods with shrimp. Finally, there's a pause and Bubba says, "That - that's about it."
There's no "that's about it" with you. You go on and on about your life's plans, your kids' plans, your parents' plan; what your kids are doing wrong, what your parents are doing wrong, what I'm doing wrong; why your kids should be doing this, why your parents should be doing that, why we should be doing the other. This goes on during our shopping trips, our television viewing, our drives to help your kids, and as I'm trying to get to a few hours of sleep after a long day of trying to earn enough money to keep your unemployed self safe and sound under my roof.
Like Forrest, I keep my mouth shut and take in your almost-ceaseless droning. I know better now than to engage you with my thoughts - be they in agreement or otherwise.
I'm not saying that you have the mental capacity of Bubba Blue. You are far above that. Yet, given the way you've been treating me, I can't help but feel as though I'm only a simple-mined Gump in your life. And that's all you want.
No, I'm not Forrest. First of all, I don't have a movie directing fate to bring my outcomes into wondrous conclusions. And you are definitely no Jenny.
You remember those scenes: while Forrest and Bubba assemble their rifles, shine their boots, scrub the floor with toothbrush, Bubba continues on and on about preparing shrimp, eating shrimp, and making a multitude of foods with shrimp. Finally, there's a pause and Bubba says, "That - that's about it."
There's no "that's about it" with you. You go on and on about your life's plans, your kids' plans, your parents' plan; what your kids are doing wrong, what your parents are doing wrong, what I'm doing wrong; why your kids should be doing this, why your parents should be doing that, why we should be doing the other. This goes on during our shopping trips, our television viewing, our drives to help your kids, and as I'm trying to get to a few hours of sleep after a long day of trying to earn enough money to keep your unemployed self safe and sound under my roof.
Like Forrest, I keep my mouth shut and take in your almost-ceaseless droning. I know better now than to engage you with my thoughts - be they in agreement or otherwise.
I'm not saying that you have the mental capacity of Bubba Blue. You are far above that. Yet, given the way you've been treating me, I can't help but feel as though I'm only a simple-mined Gump in your life. And that's all you want.
No, I'm not Forrest. First of all, I don't have a movie directing fate to bring my outcomes into wondrous conclusions. And you are definitely no Jenny.
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